What you want is who you want to become.
But it’s very important you set this up right.
Too many people set goals for themselves that actually work against them. I want to be rich by September 11th 2015. This goals is driven by pain. I don’t have enough money now, so I want to be rich. You can almost feel the reaction, it’s like a pull back from a hot stove. It is vague, even if this person made a million, what is rich? What people want is feelings I want to be happy, that is what this person is really saying. Which is driven by, I’m not happy, I have too many bills to pay.
When we start to listen to our words, and listen to the deeper meanings of them, we start to see how we have been working against ourselves. Do you think that this person who wants to be rich is motivating himself by saying I want to be rich, I want to be rich, I want to be rich? Or is he beating himself up by saying I’m poor, I’m poor, I’m poor. Can you see this pattern in people you know?
What about people who want to be successful?
Or lose weight
What are these people really saying to themselves?
The funniest of them all is “I have to be more positive”, “I have to be more positive”. What is this really saying? does it feel good, does it feel positive?
Let’s break the cycle of pain. Let’s go from being reactive to proactive.
What can you do now, to improve your wealth?
What can you do now, to improve your health?
What can you do now, to improve your fitness?
What can you do now, to improve your attitude?
How do these statements make you feel? Do you feel empowered? Why is that? Is it because these questions assume you can do something?
Can you feel the difference in how the language makes you feel?
What would happen if you only focused on what you can improve? Would you make more progress easily? Would it be more rewarding? Would you feel better about yourself? would you be working with yourself instead of against?
Let’s set an effective health goal.
The old way would have been. I want to lose weight by September 30th… so I have to starve myself until then. Does this feel nice? does this motivate you? Or are you like me and feeling tightness in your chest at the thoughts of it.
Now the effective way.
What do you really want in life? Do you want to be skinny? So people will accept you so that you will like yourself? Will people like you if your sick miserable and unhealthy? Will you like yourself, if you are sick miserable and unhealthy? But your skinny right? 😉
Or do you want to be the best you, you can be? Full of energy enthusiasm, vitality and light. That loves life, themselves, and everyone around them, because they feel so good every day?
Which sounds better to you?
What can you do now to move towards that goal? I hope you’re not saying stop eating shit food? Does that feel good to you? No? Does it feel like your criticizing yourself? Well then it’s not supporting you. What would happen if you said I can eat more veg today? How does that statement feel to you? Is it better? is it focused on what will actually make you healthy?
Do you want to become a person who loves them self fully and feels amazing all the time.
I think that is a pretty awesome goal.
Can you start moving towards that now?